mostly they don't
Published on June 21, 2004 By citahellion In Personal Relationships
Generally speaking I've noticed that people will listen to someone else just long enough to hear what is being talked about. At that point, one of four basic reactions kicks in:

1) I agree with the speaker
Then I will listen to him for as long as it takes to reinforce my own beliefs.

2) I disagree with the speaker
Then I will dismiss him as a crank of some sort. If I am feeling generous, I may listen just long enough to hear something that I can find fault with.

3) I have no opinion or knowledge on the matter whatsoever
Then I will pay some amount of attention to his speaking style.

3a) If he speaks well and presents himself decently, then I am likely to agree with him.
3b) if he is angry and overblown, or looks cheap or sleazy or ostentatious or self-important, then I am likely to disagree with him.

And that is pretty much the full extent of most peoples' critical listening skills.

Comments
on Jul 12, 2004
MY experience is that most people do not listen. They may hear, but they do not listen. Once upon a time, I made a game out of this. I would try to deceive people without lying. It was very easy.
on Jul 12, 2004
When my siblings talk to me, I just sort of nod and agree, when honestly I have no idea what they are talking about. I just block them out. It's easier than actually having to talk with them.. hehe

Ashlee